This is strictly for the men!!! Ladies if you have a man share this post with him in his email, snuggle on the couch with him with your laptop, iPad and/or tablet and let him read this. It's time men take heed in understanding us Lady's.
So unless you've been hiding under a rock I'm pretty sure you've heard of Steve Harvey's book turned motion picture “Act like a Lady, Think like a Man", which is an awesome book. This post is all the way inspired by that book. Guys spend so much time trying to get us to understand them. Whether it's remembering not to talk or bother them during SNF or MNF (Sunday/Monday Night Football) or when they want us to be home waiting for them on the bed with nothing on. Yeah we thank Mr. Harvey for the book cause it really does allow you to understand the thought process of a man. But it's time men start to learn us. So gentlemen, here's some ways to romance your woman a little more, to understand your woman a little more and to make her smile a little more.
When she says: "I'm Fine"
She Really Means: Things aren't anywhere near fine. She really means I’m mad or there's something bothering me. More than likely deep down inside she wants to talk about it.
You Should: Play detective, in case no one has put you hip "fine" for a woman means: (Freakedout. Irritated. Nervous. Emotional) yeah it can be annoying to keep asking her what's wrong, but it's your job to make sure she goes to bed happy. So even if she doesn’t want to let it out right away when you ask. Kiss her on her forehead and let her know you're there willing to listen when she wants to talk.
When she says: "Am I Fat"
She Really Means: Babe you're not reassuring me that I'm still beautiful to you.
You Should: Tell her she looks fine. Something along the lines likes “Baby you look even better from when I first laid eyes on you". Not only does it let her know that you find her more attractive now then you did 5 years ago. But it also makes her feel a lot better about herself. Yeah your woman should already be confident, but believe me as a woman we all want that extra boost from the man that we love. So make sure you tell your woman at least 4 times out of a week or everyday if possible that you love her and she BEAUTIFUL!
When she says: "I'm almost ready" or "I'll be ready in a minute"
She Really Means: I'm nowhere near ready. I don't know what I'm wearing, I can't figure out what shoes to wear and I still have to curl my hair.
You Should: Take your time getting there, or come there(of course bring some roses) and wait patiently on her couch, catch up on some sport center. But whatever you do don't rush her and most importantly don't make it an argument. That will definitely ruin the mood.
When she says: "I'm just having a bad day"
She Really Means: This could be your fault or other things from family, work and/or friends.
You Should: Give her, her space if you're not going to be an aid to helping her day to be any better. If you do plan on making it better you can start by giving her a massage...whether it's back or feet. What the heck aim for a full body massage. Turn on some soothing music, or find out what's on her mind so you can take it off by talking about something else. If told you she's having a bad day via telephone or email, when she get home maybe you can have flowers awaiting her or if it's early in the day send her an editable arrangement to work. Have a bath waiting for her when she gets home with dinner already prepared.
When she says: “What are you doing tonight?"
She Really Means: I hope you don't have any concrete plans that don't involve me because I would love to spend some time this weekend.
You Should: Not necessarily "check-in" but before you make plans with your boys see if she wanted to do anything. A woman loves when she feels like she's coming before the boys and that you're considering her plans and feelings. More than likely even if she did have something plan she'll say no just because you asked. Men I know what you're thinking you, “I’m not asking her for permission". It's not asking her for her permission it's just communicating and being considerate
When she says: “What time do you plan on coming home?"
She Really Means: Please don't stay out pass 2am, the last thing I want to do is sing Melanie Fiona "4am" or It's getting close to that time, so I hope you're about to say your headed home.
You Should: Be really coming in the house by 2am no later than 3am. No woman want her man to come in the house 6/7am in the morning, that's not cool at all. If you do (which you shouldn't) come in the house the next sunrise it should be because you both agreed, not unexpectedly
Men, a woman loves nothing more but to be listened to, respected, romanced and kept in touch on what's going on in your world(communication). I guarantee you a little more peace in your home if you try the above suggestions. Try it and then let me know how it worked for you.
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